You know what I do when I feel jealous? I tell myself to not feel jealous. I shut down the “why not me?” voice and replace it with one that says “don’t be silly” instead. It really is that easy. You actually do stop being an awful jealous person by stopping being an awful jealous person…. And if you can’t muster that, you just stop. You truly do. You do not let yourself think about it. There isn’t a thing to eat down there in the rabbit hole of your bitterness except your own desperate heart. If you let it, your jealousy will devour you. Your letter is evidence that it has already begun to do so. It has depleted your happiness, distracted you from your real work, and turned you into a crappy friend.
—DEAR SUGAR, The Rumpus Advice Column #69: We Are All Savages Inside - The Rumpus.net
